However, the idea that we are often afraid to learn from accidents or traumatic events where we really aren't to blame, but did play a a role, is universally problematic. Traveling down the "what could I do differently" path often reveals harmful choices we ourselves made that may have encouraged a disaster, or put us in the path of one.
As parents we have to get comfortable knowing that the way we played, or didn't play, with our children is part of who they are becoming now. We must be willing to look at some of the rules we made, or didn't make, that may have been accidentally harmful to our children, because at one point we just didn't know better.
I see a willingness to look at our own part to play, even when it really wasn't our fault, as strong, brave and powerfully important.
If you choose to read the article I wrote, please keep that point in mind. It's not about sexual abuse so much as it's about being open to learning from ourselves, even if it means seeing what we could have done different.
Hugs, smiles, and love!!!!
Autism Answers with Tsara Shelton (Facebook)
|Us teens enjoying some sun.|
Man, that was long ago!!