Dear new parents,
Position for Parenting Success by becoming your own expert.
The world of advice and experts is filled with people who will tell you what they think and what they’ve learned. And, just like you, they are not always right and they are not done learning. So listen openly but also always take the time to think about it for yourself. If you’re like me that means spending time alone. I am shy and nervous and believe what most people tell me, at first. And then I think about it. My instincts are surprisingly clever! Even when I am not.
You can let all of the contradictions frustrate and frighten you or you can let them set you free. Parenting advice is filled with strong, passionate, opposing views. I suggest listening to snippets of everything and then giving yourself the freedom to decide for yourself.
Now that you are a parent, you are going to learn more about who you are. More than you have in all the years leading up to now! Being a parent means being both leader and follower. Playing both roles for someone you love and care about in ways you've never before experienced.
Loving so deeply is possibly the greatest incentive for self-reflection and discovery.
Congratulations, new parents!
Enjoy figuring it all out with help, but as and for yourselves.
Hugs, smiles, and love!!
Autism Answers with Tsara Shelton (Facebook)