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Left Neglected
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Book: Left Neglected
Author: Lisa Genova
Publish date: July 2011
Paperback Pages: 352
I didn’t
think my mom was lying exactly. It’s just – I don’t know, I couldn’t fathom it.
I mean, she couldn’t see anything on her left? Only on her left?
My mom’s
left hemisphere neglect – the result of an injury to the right hemisphere of
her brain (she hit her head hard while working in Paris) - was short lived and
minimally disabling, in part because mom is a brain and behavior expert with
the skills, tools, and knowledge of how to help herself immediately.1 Due to my mom’s ability to turn things around
and make good use of them, it became like so many things happening to my mom:
something that makes her seem weird while giving her a deeper knowledge and
understanding of brain and behavior.
However,
for so many others (including Sarah, the main character in Left Neglected)
it is far more life changing and challenging.
Left
Neglected is the
second novel by Lisa Genova, author of Still Alice. Both books center on
super successful women who are compelled to re-frame their own versions of
success when confronted with neurological dysfunctions.
In Still
Alice, the dysfunction is early-onset Alzheimer’s disease.
For Sarah
in Left Neglected it is left neglect, an arguably less famous but still
significant condition.
The novel
begins by dropping readers into the non-stop chaos of Sarah’s home and work
life. Both Sarah and her husband, Bob, are competitive high achievers. They
have three adorable children (I fell in love with them instantly!) and their
oldest – a first grader – is struggling both at school and at home to follow
directions and complete assignments. With both parents working all hours and
paying for two homes they are blessed to also have the help of a
twenty-two-year-old nanny, Abby. She lives ten minutes away, has a degree in
psychology, and adores the children.
The pace of
their life, of the story, of Sarah’s inner dialogue, is go go go. There is
always something needing to be done, someone needing to be delegated to do it,
and goals to keep an eye on. It is hurried, but not unhappy. The group works
well as a team and though they rarely take a moment to enjoy it, they are
enjoying it. It fits into the dream they have for their lives.
However,
Sarah is in an accident on her way to work and wakes up missing the entire left
side of her vision. She cannot see or attend to anything on her left. The speed
with which she moved through her life is no longer available to her.
It is hard
to describe what it’s like to have left neglect. In Sarah’s experience (as in
my mom’s) she thinks she’s seeing everything. Everything appears whole to her,
yet she is consistently unable to see, feel, or attend to the left. For
example, she’ll finish eating all the food on her plate, be certain it is all
gone, yet everything on the left remains. She is not seeing it, but she also
cannot recognize that she is not seeing it. Walking and dressing are nearly
impossible at first because her left side does not exist for her. It isn’t
paralyzed, it isn’t missing, it just isn’t.
In therapy
she practices focusing on moving, seeing, feeling, and being aware of the left.
These descriptions are fascinating and hard to hold onto. As a reader I both
could and could not quite understand. Which, of course, is true of trying to
understand anything completely foreign to our experience.
As the
story goes on, now hindered by Sarah’s inability to see the left, we slow down.
(Though Sarah does not do so easily! As in keeping with her character she plans
to beat this thing; to impress everyone with her ability to win therapy.) In
slowing down we see new things. Sarah’s mom reenters her life and it is a turbulent
reunion. Sarah has anger toward her mother for not being available to her as
she grew up. She struggles to allow her to be there for her now.
Sarah’s hardships
inspire a new kind of connection with her oldest son, and together they
discover creative ideas for their challenges with homework and reading.
Sarah’s
internal debates about being handicapped are candid. At first, she refuses to
accept herself as a disabled person. She feels certain that she can push and
work her way out.
Hence, as
adaptations are presented, she wrestles with the question of whether it is
giving up to accept tools designed to assist her as a disabled person. Is it
giving up to snowboard with assistance when she really wants to ski without it?
Will she become complacent? Will she stop insisting on healing?
Lucky for
us she chooses to accept the opportunities offered by the New England Handicapped Sports Association (NEHSA)2 – a real organization – and we go
snowboarding. Sarah’s world becomes bigger.
With this
new movement, this new momentum and adaptations, Sarah sees a new idea for a
different life that might suit her and her family well.
The book
does a lovely (though not exactly subtle) job of reminding readers that many of
us are voluntarily neglecting entire aspects of our own lives, for a variety of
reasons in a variety of ways.
Because of
Sarah’s brain trauma she gains a new beautiful relationship with her mom, she
finds time and meaningful ways to be with her children, she accepts employment
that feels holistically fulfilling. She does not judge the life she was living
before, and indeed misses elements of it. However, by adapting she has also
created something more suitable and sustainable for her family.
It is a
nice reminder that we can be proud of who we were even when we choose to be
someone new, evolving and progressing does not have to include disliking or
disapproving of the past.
Left
Neglected is a good
book with a lovely message: that left neglect is a real thing so maybe my mom
wasn’t making it up when she said she couldn’t see anything on the left.
(Hmmmm?
Pardon me? I see, I’m being handed a note that tells me my mom was not, in fact,
the moral of the story. I will rewrite that.)
Left
Neglected is a good
book with a lovely message: that a single moment can derail everything you’re
becoming but if you do the work of adapting, if you do not neglect the
opportunities and people around you, life can become a different yet equal
success.
1. If you are interested in my mom’s
work as a brain and behavior expert, or simply curious about such a weird and
wonderful mom of eight, you can visit her websites to see books, videos, and so
much more, here: www.lynettelouise.com / www.brainbody.net
2. To learn more about the New England
Handicapped Sports Association you can visit their website by following this
link: https://nehsa.org/
Hugs, smiles, and love!!