Showing posts with label bowling. Show all posts
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Friday, January 26, 2018

Autism Answer: I'm Home And I Brought A Few Thoughts With Me

"Be passionate and non-violent. Be these things without being silent. Take time in the quiet to discover your own changing beliefs and insist on living them with volume. Your power is your existence. Use it with intention!" ~Tsara Shelton (me!)

I've been away, some of you have noticed. (Thank you for noticing!) I've been in California working with and for my sister.

It was fantastical!!!

It was filled with feelings, moments, concerns, challenges, reminiscing, reinventing, and at the end of the twelve days, I left for home with a few hard questions I'll be untangling and exploring.

It was exactly what I like interruptions in my regular routine to be. I felt my value, I worked my role with passion, and though I was reminded of ways I am not able to "fix" all the things that hurt us I was also able to see all the ways I can affect our situations and work toward answers that help.

All of our lives are a story. A great many stories, actually. And we are like writers. We dive in with intention and a vision for how we imagine the story will go but we are never not surprised. We are never not taken in new directions. The story unfolds as we both create and react to it. It is invigorating, frightening, and powerfully revealing!

Our power is our existence and our story has an effect on many other stories. Let's remind each other to be intentional and kind even in the face of the hard stuff.

I think, friends, it helps when we notice that we are mostly surrounded by stunning creativity, kindness, and cooperation. The hard stuff is inevitable and revealing, but it isn't the majority of our moments. (Even when it feels like it because the hard stuff has a habit of making the loveliness harder to focus on or accept as lovely. Focus and accept anyway!)

Whether we want to have power or not, we do. Embrace it! Explore it! Enjoy it!

Oh, boy, it's nice to be back! It's fun to embrace and explore with you.
I do so enjoy it!

Hugs, smiles, and love!!
Autism Answers with Tsara Shelton (Facebook) 

Some photos from my recent trip to California: 

My sister and her two youngest daughters.

A production crew family (my son & his wife in the background, me & my niece in the foreground)

Mornings at my sister's house
 
My son and his wife picking up their daughter (I had six wonderful days with her!)


My granddaughter adores smiling and playing with her cousins!

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Autism Answer: Goals & Dreams: Decide What To Do With Them!

Our Goals and Dreams aren't going anywhere so we might as well figure out what we want to do with them!

When I was a little girl I wanted to grow-up and write books. I also wanted my very autistic brother to stop picking up my things and tossing them around the house. 

Interestingly, I have handled these goals--or dreams--in many different ways over the years. Sometimes I believed in them, sometimes I was afraid of them, often they made me feel annoyed or inferior, at times I enjoyed trying to reach them while other times I enjoyed complaining about the things getting in my way while trying to reach them.

What I noticed is that no matter how I treat these dreams, they are still there. And only when I'm actively trying to reach them do I feel really intentional and happy. And even more awesome, when I'm actively going after them I'm actually getting closer to reaching them!! 

 
Not long ago my brother tossed one of my receipts onto the floor and three wonderful things happened. 1) When I asked him to pick it up and put it back he did so with ease. 2) I noticed that he doesn't toss my stuff around much anymore! 3) The moment felt very much like any other sibling "hey, can you please not do that" moment.

And guess what else?? The book I'm currently writing is called Hands Up and the outline is pretty darn good!

Having goals and dreams for ourselves and our loved ones is important and wonderful. It's also important and wonderful to be intentional when choosing them, and to be willing to allow for shifting and changing.


Just don't forget to decide what you want to do with them!! And I suggest making a choice that encourages happiness and action!

Hugs, smiles and love!!!!
Autism Answers


My Bowling Brother:
He can sit and dream about knocking down the pins,
be afraid that he won't knock down the pins,
think about the ladies watching him try to knock down the pins,
or enjoy the game while learning how to knock down the pins.
The choice is his!