Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Autism Answer: Teaching then Playing vs Teaching while Playing

There is an immense and important difference between teaching our kids and then rewarding with play vs playing with our kids to teach.
Showing our kids what we know and telling them to show us that they listened vs having fun together, taking advantage of and practicing skills during play, valuing connections and exploring possibilities as a team.
Telling them what to do and what to think in order to get a reward vs sharing what we believe we know and encouraging confident additions or arguments and creative ways to do it different.
Get to know me and what I've learned vs getting to know each other and learning to communicate comfortably.
When we choose to teach our children and then reward with play we are suggesting that learning and skill acquisition are work, and that work isn't the fun part.
However, when we play with our kids to teach we encourage a generation of passionate, connected, playful, confident people who discovered their skills and ideas alongside parents who saw innate value and offered guidance and wisdom.
Not only that, but playing with our kids is way more fun that telling them to calm down and comply. And it's way easier!! They want to play!! They may not want to play our games our way, and they may prefer quiet stimmy games or noisy furniture bouncing games or focused perseverative interest games, but they want to play.
Let them show us the game, while we encourage the lessons.
Teaching is something we are always doing. When we do it while we play it's far more effective.... and fun!
Hugs, smiles, and love!!
Autism Answers with Tsara Shelton
International mental health specialist Lynette Louise aka THE BRAIN BROAD
working hard teaching language and social skills and pattern recognition.
Looks like fun, huh?
It is!!!

~~Wanna see how beautiful and effective teaching while playing is? Have a look at the first video on this page! ~~